Remodeling Life ~ The Pocket Door and Other Disagreements
Six Approaches to Resolving Differences
He said, rather quietly, “A pocket door would be a really good idea there.” (You know…the kind that slides into the wall and out of the way.) I said (not so quietly), “No! I hate pocket doors. I don’t want a pocket door there.” He listened while I explained why I disliked them so much. “They don’t open and close easily. I get stuck in our half bath all the time when I close that pocket door.” We’d had this discussion about the door into our master bath before; many times before. But this time was different because we are finally remodeling our 29-year-old master bathroom.
We have been dreaming about remodeling our master bathroom for as long as we’ve lived in this house. True to our natures, my husband wanted to knock out the exterior wall and expand the bathroom. He envisioned a whirlpool tub with a beautiful window above it that would look out on our backyard. I envisioned a more modest upgrade to our existing bathroom; one in which we’d leave the footprint as is, but paint and replace what was already there.
Disagreements are common in nearly all marriages (and other significant relationships). Sometimes they involve small issues like pocket doors and other times they relate to larger, more important issues like whether or not…
